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The sexual and sentimental misery made me depressed, slow, nonchalant and I lost all motivation

Hong Lam April 17,2024

When I was a child and early teenager I was lively, curious, always in a good mood because I was not yet interested in girls and the love of my parents was enough for me. But once I became a young adult and sidelined from interactions with women, this lack eats everything else and made me miserable on a daily basis.

One of the rare girls with whom I had a date took me for a pigeon, telling me after a few weeks that she had one of the regular sex plans but that she was not interested in me “you are nice, too good for me… “in short it made me very depressed for a while.

Almost a year ago, a new co-worker arrived. She did not leave me indifferent. The problem is that she has already been in a relationship for many years. This did not prevent us from having a very great bond with both Elk women dating of them to the point of being a little tactile. We have been out with other colleagues several times, but never both. I think it’s an INFJ. I learned from another colleague that her boyfriend cheated on her 2 years ago and that they separated for 9 months before getting back together. Since March they have moved into a small house which they have bought.

I’m starting to turn the page a bit but I still enter the vicious circle of this fucking loneliness. I have tried dating sites but even then I am ignored . I feel like I have a lot to offer but nobody wants it and I don’t understand why. A lot of very limited people manage to be in a relationship and have kids, it shouldn’t be that complicated, fuck .

AliAnne

I update this thread. Today, nothing has changed since. I delete all dating site. There are a lot of fake profiles and few girls respond to me. Those who do it have little or no conversation or are social cases.

My best friend girl is ISTJ. I known her since I was a child. We have a lot in common. She helps me a lot in my personal development and vice versa. My others friends are EXXX and it’s difficult to talk about this with them.

Llyralen

There is a whole “game” to know with dating sites and probably with each dating site. I recommend something like eHarmony that takes out a bunch of the early steps and does the early work for you. I think with eHarmony people/women take it seriously when they are “matched,” but it’s been 18 years since I was online dating. What I’m saying was true back then.

There are actually quite a few people obsessed with INFPs, so go ahead and put it on your profile (in my opinion). An INFP with his life together and happy in his career would seem very attractive to those of us familiar with the type. Go ahead and put everything else about yourself that you think is “off the beaten path” and see what happens. Put on there that you want to find a solid relationship and build a life and family.

So…I’m super happy with my INFP husband. He found me off-line at a church social while I had been doing 2 months of online dating. At that time for me as a woman I think the odds were awesome, about 8 guys to every gal. A few days I had 2 dates in a day. Dating was a full time job for me. I wish I could give you info on how some other girls date online. My philosophy was, they had to ask me out, (somewhere public) within 3 messages to get on my radar. At that point I was not looking for a pen-pal and I did not think an on-line written relationship or a phone relationship translated well to a real-life relationship– but things are different, there is now facetime and zoom everyone is different. Maybe I’d do things differently now, I’m not sure. It gave me more experience and J felt more ready when I met mg husband. I think there are books on online dating. There were even back then, so I would think so.